Assuming the worst about others’ motives hurts.
Of course I am speaking as one who has done it and has been hurt by it as well, so I am not saying I am any better.
Two quotes I really like that often speak to cases like these:
“Don’t judge a man by where he is, because you don’t know how far he has come” – C.S. Lewis
There is way too much “I thank God I’m not like that Pharisee” in our online discourse. Not enough “I’m the chief of sinners.” Daniel Darling
Let us reconsider our thoughts and words if they don’t build each another up.